The 5th way we repel friends & frustrate people is what I will call “withdrawals”. Let me explain: If you deposit $0 in your checking account and go to make a withdrawal, you will get nothing…right? Because if no deposit has been received, then you can’t make a withdrawal. (Unless you are the Federal Government, [...]

In previous posts we’ve been discussing the things we all do to repel friends and frustrate people. Here’s #4 : “Pimping”. Have you ever been pimped? Have you ever been the pimp? I think we probably all have. You strategically create a roster of faux-friends that you can put into the game whenever you need [...]

The third thing I want to talk about that repels and frustrates people is  “categorizing”. We’ve all been the victim and the culprit with this one. Simply stated: We like to put people into nice little categories. For the sake of clarity, here’s the Amplified version of that last sentence for you: We [You and [...]

In Part 1 we discussed the first way to repel and frustrate those around you (Click here to read Part 1…or scroll down about 3 inches). Another way that you and I can repel friends and frustrate people is by being self-centered. This can be tough to recognize but here are two ways it can [...]

Over the next few posts we will discuss a few of the ways that we “repel friends and frustrate people”. By way of disclaimer, I should mention that I know about these because I’ve done them all on multiple occasions. Yes, as hard as it is to believe, I’ve repelled and frustrated a few people [...]

When it comes to leading people, we only lead them two places: 1. Where we have been. 2. Where we haven’t been. Leading where we have been seems pretty simple, right? I’ve been to Atlanta many times and my leading would reflect that past experience. I may give you a story peppered with some pitfalls [...]

God commanded Moses. Moses commanded Joshua. Joshua did what Moses said. “As the LORD commanded his servant Moses, so Moses commanded Joshua, and Joshua did it; he left nothing undone of all that the LORD commanded Moses.” – Joshua 11:15 But we just don’t like to be bossed around, right? Or maybe we convince ourselves [...]

The message we are bombarded with daily is “Do more, Do more, Do more”. As leaders, most of us need to hear “Do less!” “The secret to concentration is elimination.” Some people do in fact need to do more. But for leaders, this can be an easy trap to fall into. As Andy Stanley says, [...]

I play fantasy football with friends from church. If a player does really well one week, then I play him again the next week. If a player consistently performs poorly, then he either gets benched until his game improves or he is traded. If I need to replace one of my players I just skim [...]

Every organization has its jargon. Some even have their own language. Usually, this specialized vocabulary makes everyday communication easier. Sometimes the terms and phrases develop accidentally, and sometimes they are deliberately created. We have to evaluate the vocabulary we use everyday. If your organization is closed then this is a great way to create and [...]