The 5th way we repel friends & frustrate people is what I will call “withdrawals”. Let me explain: If you deposit $0 in your checking account and go to make a withdrawal, you will get nothing…right? Because if no deposit has been received, then you can’t make a withdrawal. (Unless you are the Federal Government, [...]

In previous posts we’ve been discussing the things we all do to repel friends and frustrate people. Here’s #4 : “Pimping”. Have you ever been pimped? Have you ever been the pimp? I think we probably all have. You strategically create a roster of faux-friends that you can put into the game whenever you need [...]

The third thing I want to talk about that repels and frustrates people is  “categorizing”. We’ve all been the victim and the culprit with this one. Simply stated: We like to put people into nice little categories. For the sake of clarity, here’s the Amplified version of that last sentence for you: We [You and [...]

In Part 1 we discussed the first way to repel and frustrate those around you (Click here to read Part 1…or scroll down about 3 inches). Another way that you and I can repel friends and frustrate people is by being self-centered. This can be tough to recognize but here are two ways it can [...]

Over the next few posts we will discuss a few of the ways that we “repel friends and frustrate people”. By way of disclaimer, I should mention that I know about these because I’ve done them all on multiple occasions. Yes, as hard as it is to believe, I’ve repelled and frustrated a few people [...]

When you’re listening to someone, try listening for these 3 things: Listen to WHAT they said. Listen to what they MEANT to say. Listen to what they WANTED to say, but didn’t know how to say it. These 3 components usually exist in some way in every interaction if we’ll just pay attention. Ask questions [...]

God commanded Moses. Moses commanded Joshua. Joshua did what Moses said. “As the LORD commanded his servant Moses, so Moses commanded Joshua, and Joshua did it; he left nothing undone of all that the LORD commanded Moses.” – Joshua 11:15 But we just don’t like to be bossed around, right? Or maybe we convince ourselves [...]

AND SO IS EVERY OTHER CHURCH IN THE WORLD! No, I haven’t finally lost it…and I’m not demon-possessed or backsliding. Just let me explain: By definition, a cult is a particular system of religious worship, esp. with reference to its rites and ceremonies -or- a group or sect bound together by veneration of the same [...]

Being paranoid will drive you crazy. As a leader, we shouldn’t be walking around thinking “so and so thinks I’m a bad leader” or “they think I talk too much”. But, here’s the reality…we’re not supposed to have these thoughts, but we DO HAVE THOSE THOUGHTS! So how can we turn that paranoia into something [...]

Have you ever ran out of gas?  We all know the story…you’re riding along, minding your own business, and then the car just DIES? Right?! WRONG!!! The truth is that about 5 miles back, you heard an alarm chime as your “Low Fuel” indicator light came on in the instrument panel.  You drove about 2 [...]